Thursday, April 25, 2013

spelling bee victory

So a few weeks ago S won second place in a spelling bee, competing against other students in his own fourth grade classroom.  He, along with the first place winner, qualified to move on to the next round, where they were to compete against the other fourth grade finalists.  We were proud of him, excited for him.....  He, on the other hand, did not want to move on to the next round.  He was under the impression that his teacher said it was optional.  I made it clear that it wasn't optional in my mind.  He needed to take the place he had earned, he needed to finish what he started, I told him.  He fought me hard.  We had a real knock-down drag out fight about whether he was going to participate in the next spelling bee or not.

I stood my ground and he was not happy with me.  I think it was partly that he felt a choice was being taken away from him, and if you'll recall, the boy is thirsty for independence these days.  I'm sure another part of it was that he was nervous, and of course he had every right to feel that way.

He finally came to understand that he didn't have a choice in this particular matter.  He agreed to start studying the list of words they were given.  We studied for three days and he learned all the words on the list.

Then last night, he walked out on that stage with seven other fourth graders and nervously spelled 13 words.  He missed one (luncheon --- tough word! and not on the published list!), but by that point they were down to two kids, and the other student missed it too, so they kept going one more round.  All the others he spelled correctly and he won!

I used my phone to keep a list of the words he spelled.  Luncheon was the only one he missed (I put his spelling in parenthesis).  Pretty good, huh?

Before the spelling bee we had talked a lot about how Nate and I would be proud of him no matter what, even if he didn't get any words right, just for getting out on that stage we would applaud and be completely proud.  So for him to get up there and win it was really exciting.  Afterward he was adorably incredulous.  "I can't believe it.  I can't believe that just happened!"  he said over and over.  T was just as cute, making up little songs for his brother like, "you're awesome!  you're the best, you diiiiiid it!"  We rode the wave for another hour, enjoying an ice cream outing, before we had to get the boys to bed.

What a fun night.  A great memory for us all, and I hope a lesson for my guy who tends to doubt his abilities.

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